I have always been a proponent of little things. No, no, no…get your mind out of the gutter. I am talking about the little things that your partner says and does within a relationship that express their love without making a grand gesture. It is these little things that keep my irrational, crazy bitch oh-my-god-he-doesn’t-love-me-anymore self tucked away nicely in the closet. These little things include the little kisses he plants on my forehead and the quick text messages that let me know I’m on his mind.
Along with those little things, there are also the unrelated things. These are the things he says and does that really don’t have anything to do with me but they scream “I love you Catherine” loud and clear. My current s/o does lots of these little unrelated things.
He loves my family. My family is beyond impossible. My mother is overbearing and overprotective. She is annoying and messy. My brother is goofy and nerdy, and my dad is mean and moody. I love them wildly. They have provided for me though all of the crap that has happened in my life. However, when new boyfriends enter the picture they often misunderstand my wonderful family. S/O is not one of those. He has embraced them whole heartedly. He plays board games and makes jokes with them. When I see him interacting with my family it makes my heart skip a beat and makes me know that he loves me unconditionally.
He goes to church with me. My faith is a very complex aspect of who I am and my boyfriend understands that. Even though I would never ask him to go to church with me, he goes every week he is in town. He goes and sits and sings and plays the part of the love of my life….probably because he is the love of my life. Tonight, while sitting at the dinner table (with my family!) the S/O asks what it takes to join the church. It took everything I had not to cry. I have always wanted a guy who would join the church and make that commitment to me. I don’t know if he will follow through with it, but just the thought makes me so incredibly happy.
So to every guy out there I’m just letting you know, it is the little things that keep your lady happy in that deep down, crazy in love kind of way.
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Oh You Know You Want It...
Don't you just love it when something BIG is about to happen in your life and you have no control over it at all. I am a self professed control freak and I like being, well, in control. That being said, it drives me crazy when things happen to me or around me and I cant stick my big fat nosey behind into it.
Enter the boyfriend with.....the ring. My darling significant other and I have been dating for about seven months now and I know, without a doubt that he is my one. He makes me happier than any other guy I have ever been with and I could totally see myself with him from now until the end of time. So naturally I want the big sparkly rock. I wouldn’t have dared to bring it up on my own...that is like the crazy girl relationship death sentence. If you bring up the ring before he is ready then you just look desperate.
However, there comes a time in a girl's life when she starts getting the "I-wanna-husband" itch. This usually occurs around 23 (in the south that is). At this point said girl has umpteen million friends who are all getting engaged and married. Desperation only enters the picture when the girl's younger friends start getting the rock and she has yet to. Now, this is not making light of the marriage itself. For at this point the girl doesn’t just want the perfect ring, she wants the perfect man and the perfect marriage.
As I am nearing that itchy time in my life, I want my happy ending. Not wanting to bring it up first, I waited and waited and waited. So I waited a little more and eventually the boyfriend brought up the topic. I am very sure he regrets having brought it up because now I am driving him up the wall. Every single day I want to ask "sooooo....how’s that proposal thing coming along?" Anything I can do to help you with that? Anything I can do to speed this process along? Hell I even drove 800 miles in one weekend so I could make sure he had the ring. (Which we didn’t get, but that is a whole other story)
I have to give the bf props though...he has been very patient and is keeping me super excited about it. It is difficult for me because I want the experience to be super wonderful and grand. The way I can ensure that is well...to plan it myself. The only problem is I don’t want to plan it myself. I want him to do it. I want it to be a total and complete surprise but the kind of surprise that is perfect in every aspect. No pressure.
I guess my only option is to trust him and know that the perfect moment will be perfect as long as at the end of the night I get to be engaged to my sweetheart.
Enter the boyfriend with.....the ring. My darling significant other and I have been dating for about seven months now and I know, without a doubt that he is my one. He makes me happier than any other guy I have ever been with and I could totally see myself with him from now until the end of time. So naturally I want the big sparkly rock. I wouldn’t have dared to bring it up on my own...that is like the crazy girl relationship death sentence. If you bring up the ring before he is ready then you just look desperate.
However, there comes a time in a girl's life when she starts getting the "I-wanna-husband" itch. This usually occurs around 23 (in the south that is). At this point said girl has umpteen million friends who are all getting engaged and married. Desperation only enters the picture when the girl's younger friends start getting the rock and she has yet to. Now, this is not making light of the marriage itself. For at this point the girl doesn’t just want the perfect ring, she wants the perfect man and the perfect marriage.
As I am nearing that itchy time in my life, I want my happy ending. Not wanting to bring it up first, I waited and waited and waited. So I waited a little more and eventually the boyfriend brought up the topic. I am very sure he regrets having brought it up because now I am driving him up the wall. Every single day I want to ask "sooooo....how’s that proposal thing coming along?" Anything I can do to help you with that? Anything I can do to speed this process along? Hell I even drove 800 miles in one weekend so I could make sure he had the ring. (Which we didn’t get, but that is a whole other story)
I have to give the bf props though...he has been very patient and is keeping me super excited about it. It is difficult for me because I want the experience to be super wonderful and grand. The way I can ensure that is well...to plan it myself. The only problem is I don’t want to plan it myself. I want him to do it. I want it to be a total and complete surprise but the kind of surprise that is perfect in every aspect. No pressure.
I guess my only option is to trust him and know that the perfect moment will be perfect as long as at the end of the night I get to be engaged to my sweetheart.
I Shall Edit No More
I know...it sounds scary. The problem I have with blogging is that I have so much crap that I would love to ramble on endlessly about and nothing to narrow me down. So I start each day with intentions of blogging and end up with about thirty topics and just too stinkin exhausted to actually write about any of them. I mean how can I choose with so many topics? What gets included?
My practice once was to type them all into word documents and then read and see which was most interesting and post that. That didnt work because I had fifty word documents with half a blog post and nothing actually posted.
So my new years resolution, if you want to call it that, is just to blog. I want to just put it out there, typo be damned and see how this thing goes. :)
My practice once was to type them all into word documents and then read and see which was most interesting and post that. That didnt work because I had fifty word documents with half a blog post and nothing actually posted.
So my new years resolution, if you want to call it that, is just to blog. I want to just put it out there, typo be damned and see how this thing goes. :)
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